Let's talk about it — because you’re definitely not the only one wondering!

Is sex safe during pregnancy?

Will it feel different?

What if we don’t feel like it?

Pregnancy brings so many changes — to your body, your emotions, and your relationships. It's completely normal for your sex life to change too.

Here’s what you need to know about sex during pregnancy.

Is it Safe?

In most pregnancies, sex is perfectly safe — right up until your waters break or labour begins.Baby is well protected by the amniotic fluid and strong muscles of the uterus, plus the mucus plug guarding the cervix.

However, always check with your midwife or doctor if you’ve been advised to avoid sex, especially if you have:

A low-lying placenta (placenta previa)
Vaginal bleeding
Leaking waters
Signs of preterm labour

✅ If you're ever unsure, ask your midwife — they really have heard it all before!

How Sex in Pregnancy Might It Feel?

Some people find that pregnancy hormones boost their libido. Others feel too tired, nauseous, or simply not in the mood — and that’s completely okay.

You might notice:

Increased sensitivity (which can feel amazing — or overwhelming!)
Changes in lubrication (you may need extra lube)
Awkwardness as your bump grows — different positions might work better

Listen to your body and go with what feels good for you both. And remember — sex isn’t just intercourse. Cuddling, kissing, massages, and intimacy in all forms matter just as much.

Modifying Positions During Pregnancy

As your bump grows (and hips and pelvis start to feel different too!), some positions might feel uncomfortable — but simple changes can make all the difference.

Here are a few tips:

Side-lying positions (like spooning) can take pressure off your bump and back.
Being on top can help you control depth and speed, which often feels more comfortable.
Edge of the bed positions mean you can stay supported without straining your body.
Pillows are your best friend — use them under your hips, belly, or between your knees for extra comfort.

💛 The golden rule: whatever feels comfortable for you is right. There’s no one-size-fits-all.

Take it slow, keep communicating, and don’t be afraid to laugh if things feel a bit awkward at first!

Intimacy Without Penetrative Sex

Sometimes, full intercourse might not feel right — and that’s absolutely normal.There are so many other ways to stay close, connected, and intimate during pregnancy:

Cuddling and skin-to-skin contact — simple but powerful for bonding
Kissing and gentle touch — rediscover the power of touch without expectations
Massages — pregnancy-safe oils, low lighting, and slow touch can work wonders
Oral sex and mutual pleasure — if it feels good and safe for you both
Baths or showers together — warm water, soothing closeness

Intimacy is about connection more than anything else. It’s about feeling loved, supported, and seen — not just about sex itself.

When to Avoid Sex

There are times when it’s advised to pause sexual activity, such as:

After your waters break (to reduce infection risk)
If your midwife or doctor advises it for medical reasons

Again — if you have any worries, reach out to your healthcare team.

What If We Don’t Feel Like It?

If one or both of you aren’t feeling it, that’s completely normal. Pregnancy can be tough physically and emotionally — and it’s okay if sex isn’t top of your list. Stay connected in other ways, like cuddles, conversation, and planning for your baby together.

Good communication is everything. Talk openly, be honest, and support each other through the changes.

Preparing for Baby (and Beyond)

Pregnancy is full of changes — not just physically, but emotionally too. The Birth & Baby Academy includes real-world advice on preparing for birth, your postnatal recovery, newborn care, relationships (including sex!) and navigating all these big changes with confidence - because we've been there & understand the challenges.

▶️ Find out more here — and feel empowered for the road ahead.

Final Thoughts

Sex during pregnancy is a personal experience — and whatever you're feeling is valid. There’s no “right” way to do intimacy during pregnancy. Whether you’re feeling sexy, snuggly, or simply exhausted, what matters most is respect, communication, and care.

You and your body are doing something incredible — growing a new life. 💛

🌿 Need more support for pregnancy, birth, and beyond?

▶️ Explore The Birth & Baby Academy here— your next step to feeling calm, confident, and ready.